October will mark my 8th anniversary as a business owner. I've sent an average of three newsletters a month, that's around 288 love notes to my community!
I've learned a lot.
And I've failed a lot.
I've had workshops that no one signed up for.
I've held events that didn't go as I expected and ended up bringing me into the red.
I've had webinars that led to no sales.
I've had personal dreams shattered.
I've heard no HUNDREDS of times from people regarding my services.
In the first few years as an entrepreneur, these failures were devastating. Hearing no would send me under the duvet for a few days tending to my wounded ego.
I felt awful, not smart enough, not charismatic enough, and just plain not good enough.
The thing we have to be careful with when it comes to the personal development tool box is to notice when we use them to feed our shadow side...
This sounds like:
"Maybe it was my mindset."
"Maybe I didn't want it bad enough."
"Maybe I didn't manifest it the right way."
"Maybe I didn't make space for it to come into my life."
"Maybe this isn't meant to be."
Don't fall for it.
Everything doesn't happen for a reason.
YOU create the reason.
YOU have the power to create the meaning for why things happen.
There have been many times when I wanted to give up.
Why?
Because it feels uncomfortable.
But here's the funny thing...
It's also uncomfortable NOT to go for your goals.
It's uncomfortable to be passed over for a promotion because you didn't think you were qualified only to have it go to someone who's less qualified than you.
It's uncomfortable to hold back on a sales call and not invite them to work with you because you just lost an opportunity to work with someone amazing and make money doing what you love, because YOU didn't make THEM uncomfortable! (Ugh...I've had this conversation so many time with heart-centered coaches! Uncomfortable is where growth happens for BOTH of you!)
It's uncomfortable avoiding the tough conversation about boundaries with your co-worker or family member and the resentment and ruminating that happens as a result is extremely uncomfortable.
It's going to be uncomfortable either way so which one will you choose?
Taking a chance on yourself with the possibility of it working out?
Or NOT taking the chance... which means it's 100% NOT going to work out.
Short-term uncomfortableness brings long-term satisfaction.
Over these past eight years, I've learned that I will be ok if it doesn't work out. I learned that hearing no doesn't mean that I suck and I'm a failure.
Does it still feel hard when I fail at something? Sometimes, but not for long.
When you reframe failure you can start to take more chances on yourself.
I personally love what Sarah Blakey says... “ Failure is not Trying”.
I'll leave you with a few powerful questions...
What one thing you've been afraid of doing because you are afraid to fail?
What might be ONE step you can take to choose the uncomfortableness of trying vs. the uncomfortableness of waiting... and when will you take that step?
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You got this,
Coach CCZ
Fun Failure Facts:
Oprah was fired from her first television job. If she gave up then...I don't even want to think about a world without Oprah!
Steven Spielberg was rejected from the USC’s School of Theater, Film, and Television three times.
Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team and has missed 9,000 shots during his career and lost nearly 300 games.
Terry Gross was fired after just six weeks as an English teacher.
Sarah Blakely failed the LSTA Twice, and then sold fax machines for seven years door-to-door! Imagine all the "no's she got???! She's even said if she passed the LSAT, Spanx, and now Sneex,wouldn't exist!
If they can dust themselves off and go back out there... so can you!
If you need some help, that's what I'm here for!
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