There is no way around it. We will all experience varying levels of stress in our lifetime. We may get into an accident or receive a frightening health diagnosis, or we lose someone we love.
These experiences can leave us feeling shaken to our core, totally alone and lost in a tunnel of the darkness with no light to guide you out. It may be a momentary feeling or it may linger for years.
But… I have some good news for you! Yes, stress is inevitable but it’s how we deal with it that counts.
We live in such a fast paced society and many of us feel like we “should be handling things better” or “over this by now”. I’m here to tell you that often the reason we are not over the stressful feeling, is because we have pushed it away and avoided dealing with how we actually feel.
Of course, certain situations take much longer to process than others. That’s when you need to be extra gentle with yourself. Let yourself feel what you are feeling instead of pushing it away and you are going to come to the other side of the experience it a lot quicker.
What to do: Call on the Mend and Attend Stress Response
This is the counter response to the “fight or flight” stress response.
The easiest thing you can do after you have had a stressful life event is reaching out to someone. Call a friend, tell them what happened and how you feel. Get it all out and you will feel a million times better! I have seen this in my practice and personal life over and over again!
When you connect and talk about the event, you turn on oxytocin production, which shuts down cortisol production, which in turn kills the stress response. A prolonged stress response can lead to all sorts of health problems. Read more about stress related health issues here.
With all of our technology, we are more connected than ever before. Yet, I believe we are living in a time that is vastly disconnected from other human beings on a deeper level that our soul craves. One of the biggest thing that is lacking in our society is a sense of community and belonging. We evolved as a species in tribes that were developed to protect, connect, and nurture each other.
So next time you experience a stressful event, no matter how big or small, pick up the phone. Texting, emailing and Facebook is all ok, but it’s not going to kick in the “mend and attend” response as effectively as if you actually have a conversation with your nearest and dearest.
If you are feeling stuck and overwhelmed by stress, click here to schedule a Complimentary BodyMind Coaching Strategy Session. Together we can figure out what steps you can take to start heading in the direction.
I look forward to speaking with you!